Hey there, audience. It seems like a billion years since I've last written. So, a quick update on your dear blogmistress.
I'm in a good place in my life and in my head. I'm in a new relationship, and having a ton of fun, and I've been exploring a lot of facets of who I am that had, for a while, been subverted.
Which brings me to contradictions.
Many of us are, in our deepest selves, contradictory. We can hold beliefs and feelings that have completely opposite stances.
People love to categorize. We like to be able to slap a label on things, and file them in our brains. This leads us to feel like we have to pick one quality or another, one belief or another. I've recently seen the benefits of accepting these contradictions, instead of trying to make a choice. Maybe I don't have to pick between cynicism and optimism. Maybe I can have both a lack of, and copious amounts of, faith in humanity. Perhaps part of growing up is accepting the parts of ourselves that make no sense.
These are the thoughts that have been scrambling around my head lately, and I thought it was about time to share.
Until next time, my dears!
Raven
Showing posts with label People. Show all posts
Showing posts with label People. Show all posts
Sunday, March 4, 2012
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
People and Stuff
I've been doing a lot of people-watching lately. Perhaps "watching" isn't quite right. It's somewhere along the lines of observing. It's even more interesting to watch people you know, because you get to see their behavior in different conditions.
Our behaviors aren't quite as fixed as we'd like to believe. Around different peers, our behavior changes, reflecting strong facets of other's personalities. We reflect the people around us, as part of our natural want to be part of a unit, and be liked by our peers. This causes something you've probably all seen, either because it's happened to you, or to a friend. At some point, one person will develop feelings for someone else, and at some point, you will reflect that esteem onto the other person. The same can be seen in group, or mob, mentalities. The individuals begin to lose their identities, and become as one unit. Distinguishing personality traits meld into the more broad vision of the gathering.
In addition, there is a tendency among many people I know (and possibly people you know, my one dear confirmed reader) shield themselves from hurt. There is a propensity to call this strength, but I feel differently. I don't believe that strength is to hold yourself apart, and to not rely on anyone else. In this blogmistress' humble opinion, I believe that strength is the ability to open ourselves up to the possibility of deep and piercing hurt, and not be afraid to care about someone just because they have, or may in the future, cause you pain. While we cling to feelings of resentment and fear, we limit our ability to better ourselves and grow outside of the limits of what we can achieve alone. There is a measure of personal growth that can only truly be attained through our relationships with others.
I do plan on breaking up these huge walls of text with pictures later, but I've been writing this from the mobile app, so my formatting abilities are somewhat limited.
So, until next time I feel like blathering away at you, adieu
Raven
Our behaviors aren't quite as fixed as we'd like to believe. Around different peers, our behavior changes, reflecting strong facets of other's personalities. We reflect the people around us, as part of our natural want to be part of a unit, and be liked by our peers. This causes something you've probably all seen, either because it's happened to you, or to a friend. At some point, one person will develop feelings for someone else, and at some point, you will reflect that esteem onto the other person. The same can be seen in group, or mob, mentalities. The individuals begin to lose their identities, and become as one unit. Distinguishing personality traits meld into the more broad vision of the gathering.
In addition, there is a tendency among many people I know (and possibly people you know, my one dear confirmed reader) shield themselves from hurt. There is a propensity to call this strength, but I feel differently. I don't believe that strength is to hold yourself apart, and to not rely on anyone else. In this blogmistress' humble opinion, I believe that strength is the ability to open ourselves up to the possibility of deep and piercing hurt, and not be afraid to care about someone just because they have, or may in the future, cause you pain. While we cling to feelings of resentment and fear, we limit our ability to better ourselves and grow outside of the limits of what we can achieve alone. There is a measure of personal growth that can only truly be attained through our relationships with others.
I do plan on breaking up these huge walls of text with pictures later, but I've been writing this from the mobile app, so my formatting abilities are somewhat limited.
So, until next time I feel like blathering away at you, adieu
Raven
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